Erotic Relational Sovereignty: A Lyric Essay on Self-Orbiting Identity in the Realm of Desire

for the lover girls

i. The Alchemy of Erotic Sovereignty: The Importance of Sustaining Selfhood in Desire
ii. The Dance of Sovereignty: Being Yourself While Falling in Love
iii. Mirror of the Self-Unveiled: A Ritual of Sovereign Recognition
iv. The Orbital Anchor: A Ritual for Returning to Erotic Selfhood in the Presence of Another

i. The Alchemy of Erotic Sovereignty: Sustaining Selfhood Within Desire

Your love relationship mirrors how skillfully you orbit your own erotic power and selfhood. Without erotic relational sovereignty—without the ability to maintain your identity in the presence of desire for another—you can’t sustain a long-term love relationship.

When falling in love, this sovereignty has to do with both continuing to live your own erotic life and participating wholeheartedly in the creative nature of Eros who evolves identity. It’s integrating integrity, erotic living, self-governance and self-expression while valuing authentic transformation. It’s refusing to live through others’ projections and your own people-pleasing and self-abandonment. Relational sovereignty in this context embodies an intimate, self-directed power resisting patriarchal indoctrination and pseudo-erotic ties. It values authentic becoming (transformation). It’s when your erotic essence feels deeply resonant to you both when you’re alone and in relation.

Your relationship with your erotic nature is your relationship with erotic love.